All signs — Song/Arguing (sign 6)

Strategy reasonable resolution of the conflict

1. Can not hold on to their advantage.
2. Before you begin to act — to reflect on their plan, seeking opportunities to resolve the conflict.
3. As soon as possible and reasonable to resolve conflict, not its length.
4. Try to look at everything the perspective of the enemy, do not keep down, to be flexible.
5. "Knowledge is happiness enough" — the Chinese say. No need to try to resolve the conflict by force.
6. If a conflict has occurred, follow the natural course of events, trying hard to get good results and to resolve all differences peacefully.

Images: top QIAN, Sky, Tension
bottom Cagnes, Water, Danger

Arguing. The presence of trust. Obstruction. Caution — fortunately. When you reach the end - disaster. The benefit of meeting with the big man. No use in crossing the great stream

Sign Song / Arguing points to dispute, controversy, filing of claims and litigation. Upper gua QIAN — is the hardness and strength, the lower gua Cagnes — is a danger, that is, the top is a strong force, and bottom - a dark, Yin, inexplicable danger. These are the images of the mark SUN / litigation.

This symbol is the opposite sign Xu / Attending and was with him in the relations plexus tsung. These signs communicate and operate, supporting and giving rise to each other. SUN / litigation is in the "change" after the mark Xu / Attending, and on this occasion in the Traditions of the sequence of characters "reads as follows: If there is a question of drink and food, there will be litigation and, therefore, accepted the situation familiar SN / litigation.

Any objects and phenomena in the world are connected and intertwined in the system within which it is difficult to avoid contradictions. A reasonable resolution of disputes and conflicts have arisen is a great art.

The great ancient Chinese philosopher Lao-tzu on the matter said the following: Knowing your strengths, to maintain its weakness. Knowing his reputation, to adhere to its shame. The basic principle of Taoist philosophy — is the lack of involvement, lack of competition, achieving goals through the softness and weakness, through the promotion of the retreat. A Legist Shang Yang and Han Fei-tzu started establishing a clear system of laws and examples of correct behavior, and providing for stringent punishment, considering it the best way to control and prevent conflicts in society. The philosopher Mo-tzu calls on all sectors and ranks for equality, seeing it as an opportunity to resolve social contradictions. Confucius and Mencius, the founders of the Confucian school, would play a central role in the regulation of social life on the continuity of tradition and system of ancient rituals. As part of this school "Cyclical changes are considered as the head of all the canons, as well as changes in the proposed integrated system of principles and methods of optimal interaction between man and society.

Song / Arguing describes a situation of conflict that appear in the collision of interests, and shows possible ways of harmony out of it. It is composed images of sky and water - marks Qian and Cagnes. QIAN — this is the hardness of the outside, and Cagnes — the symbol of the inner darkness in the mind and sense of danger. That is, if the internal state of danger, the external activity of man is easy to face difficulties in the environment.

Jansky level Nines second symbolizes inner faith and truth, which does not find the correct resonance Devyatkov fifth, as she comes out of their own interests and goals, and is also a Jansky level, so the question of obstruction in the collision. The tension is over the danger — the firm belief falls into a trap, this situation is very dangerous. Just being careful and cautious, adhering to the principle of the median and neotklonyaemosti can cope with danger. And if you rely on their strength and move forward, then defeat is inevitable. Therefore, it is said that caution and balance lead to happiness, and desire to reach the end brings misfortune. Benefits in a meeting with the great man, there is no benefit in crossing a large stream. In such a situation should seek a fair and strong man that he helped. But not impossible to undertake risky actions, using its own virtue. In "structurally comments says: Litigation. At the top of the hardness at the bottom of danger. At the risk ispolzuesh force, creating a lawsuit. In the lawsuit the presence of trust and obstruction. Alertness and the balance within the lead to happiness. Hardness comes to you and you reach a state of equilibrium. If you go to the end, disaster. In a lawsuit can not be carried to completion. Benefits in the appearance of a great man: promotion of balance and inner truth. No use in crossing the large flow: get into the abyss.

Commentary on "great way" states: When the sky and water are conflicting — there is litigation. The ruler-sage, observing this, understand that doing business, he must the outset to have vision.

Upper gua QIAN — a sky, the lower gua Cagnes — is water. When the sky above and water below, then their movement is no harmony, and there is a quarrel. Understanding the meaning of these images, a wise man in solving problems and resolving situations, first seriously thinks the concept and plan to continue to avoid quarrels and conflicts.

Optimal strategy in a situation Song / Arguing

1. In planning the future of work, you must use caution and circumspection, so that your profits do not come into conflict with the interests of others, as well as interpersonal conflicts and clashes of interests is always initiated by the personal benefits the conflict. If you are only betting on his own strength, in the end, not only did not attain the desired, but stolkneshsya with a force that exceeds your own. If, however, is based on the principles of sincerity and truth, even when confronted with the damage the desire of another for the benefit of looking at the situation through his eyes, you can minimize the damage the emerging conflict. One must try to prevent aggravation of the conflict, for a temporary victory never gives assurances that the conflict does not flare up with renewed force when the defeated enemy would be able to take revenge. Contradictions and conflicts can only lead to the fact that both parties will make in favor of harm. The emerging confrontation should seek to resolve as soon as possible, can not be delayed and lasts — the longer runs, the greater the damage.

2. Direct cause of the collision part is that both forces seek to achieve victory, and nobody wants to concede. Moreover, neither side wants the other to bow. If both sides will act compliant, take into account the views of his opponent more to think about why there was a collision - then you can reduce the harm caused by conflict or reduce tension. If you achieve victory by force can only exacerbate the contradictions, which will bring trouble and you and your opponent. Man, above all, must protect itself and give to others only if he can resolve conflicts in the phase when they have not yet formed. And in this case his own benefit and the benefit will not fall into a state of damage. Confucius talked about the ways of loyalty and success through the success of others: to achieve its objectives, only he who stands firm on his feet, helping others. If the cases you want to succeed, it should strive to help other people achieve it. In his treatise "Analects" also sounds a reminder that the wise man rejects four aspects: the crude, the need for force, power and ego. That is, should not rely on empty thoughts, not to make categorical judgments, not to use hard power and not conditional on selfishness and Confucius proposes to get rid of these four deficiencies. Wise ruler no reason to compete — he has to give in, humbled himself, and thus rises. He falls and is happy to move downwards, but so has the competition wise ruler. Once a student of Confucius Zi Gong asked his teacher: can a single phrase to describe completely the correct behavior. Confucius replied: "We must forgive and not to others what you would not like for yourself." Therefore, the wise ruler above all trying to understand himself and the little man try to identify the others. Wise ruler imposes requirements for the self — the little man is always tough on other people. When he applies to his high demands and little blame others, thus moving away the troubles and problems themselves, as few people will be able to hurt you in this case.

3. A man must know when to stop. No need to strive to gain power victory. If a collision can hold favor, whether patient and humble, defeating itself. If not properly understood, and you aspire to continue to force a collision, it is like a desire to break the stone chicken egg. When the text says that the husband can not tolerate this humiliation, it means that the time has come to be concessions. By finding enough — finds joy, and it is not only a way of resolving internal problems, but also a philosophy of interaction with the world.

4. If a collision has occurred, follow the natural course of events, tried to make sure the result was good, but if it is not like that, do not copy resentment and frustration that in the future did not raise a new collision. In worldly affairs there are certain laws, they are required, and in human life, damage and loss - is unavoidable situation. Can not be every and always win, not make you surrounded only sovershennomudrye or those who are like you. If you recognize this for ed, it becomes obvious that showing leniency and forgiveness, we receive fewer shocks and disappointments. That is the truth that tells us Nine Four.

7. The most important thing - to try hard to avoid a collision. But if it had arisen, and especially if the opposing party does not want to exercise prudence and to make concessions — to use force. It should be remembered that only when we act, relying on inner truth, and the median, and if enough of our forces, we can achieve victory.

8. Everyone should understand that achieving victory by force, you can not long retain its result. The victory of force in this case — wrong tool. If you win, you should not be proud of, and carried, the more so if the enemy is waiting for opportunities to strike back. Ultimately, the victory will turn into a bird and fly away and such a victory is like a defeat. People should try to resolve conflicts peacefully, to avoid collisions — says the top nine.

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